Let’s talk commitment. This may be triggering. To many. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’re currently a commitment phobic culture. And I’m not just talking within a romantic relationship. I’m also talking commitment to self, commitment to purpose, commitment to friendships, the list goes on. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “Commitment” is like a dirty word. It conjures up false avoidant belief systems around being high maintenance, intense, demanding, having high expectations, being confined by a time frame, robbed of choice, trapped. Bullshit. This is the exact thinking that leads to self abandonment. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Conscious commitment starts with the Self - it offers the freedom to authentically uphold who you are, the safety to hold a space for yourself to be the fullest expression of Self, the vessel of intimate connection, the place in which you honour your needs, and dedicate yourself to your truth. And in so doing, you offer that to someone else. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Why would you expect anything less for yourself? Why would you want to offer anything less to someone else? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Unapologetically show up for yourself and allow others, who are willing and able to, show up for you too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Commitment doesn’t have to mean long term, but it does mean that for whatever moment you choose to be part of something - a sexual encounter, a romantic relationship, a friendship, a quest to evolve, a workshop - you are 100% in and present, authentic, honest, dedicated, holding your space with integrity, from the heart. These three questions help me to understand where I’m meeting myself at any moment, and therefore where anyone else can & needs to meet me. -Am I a 100% in? -Am I holding a space for myself? -Do I have integrity in this present moment? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Image via Pinterest
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